I was walking in downtown Santa Cruz and was surprised to discover this small metal heart on a larger metal structure on the side of a building. Certainly I had missed seeing this heart dozens of times. It is in plain sight, but, even now that you know that it is out there in downtown Santa Cruz it may prove challenging to find it, though I happened to glance upon it and it caught my eye. Thought this might prove to be a suitable photo for what inspired me today to talk about which is the idea that “Love is blind”.
The love object, in this case, you might be blind to, but this metal heart, a representative of love, absolutely is not hidden from sight.
In the last post I talked about the need to intentionally connect to love, if you want to find love, since love is ever present. In this sense ‘love’ can be considered ‘blind’ since we can be ‘blind’ to the fact that we already have the love we seek. Love within is clearly not hidden from sight but we do have to connect to it.
“Love is blind” usually refers to being blind to particular attributes of the person we are in love with, especially when it comes to negative attributes. We focus on all of the positive aspects of them and reduce the significance of, or ignore altogether, anything that does not ‘fit’ with our infatuated loving vision of our beloved.
And I feel there is some truth to this, especially in the early stages of a love relationship, where the passion is enmeshed with the love for the other person. But this type of love blindness is not true love. I’m not saying that love is not present, but that infatuation is what is causing this blindness to a person’s shortcomings or incompatibilities, not love. So this is not the love blindness of higher love.
Higher love does have a blindness and it’s not just the possibility of being blind to the higher love within.
If you reside in a state of loving consciousness towards yourself and others, you intentionally choose to focus on the positive attributes and potentials of all souls, yours included. But it is more than this.
You are aware of their higher self, whether it is fully expressed in the person or not, and connect to the higher love that exists in all of us. And, you can connect to this higher love, while still acknowledging and being fully aware of, where that higher love is not yet being allowed to express itself in that individual.
So where is the love blindness in higher love? In this loving state towards self and others we can disconnect and blind ourselves from the grounded reality of being human.
Sometimes we find that we are better at loving others from a place of higher love in the world than ourselves.
Absolutely love others from a place of higher love, but this does not mean that you do not need healthy boundaries with others here in the real world.
For instance, you may want to stay with someone whom you know loves you and you love them. But, if their actions do not reflect that love, you need to respect and love yourself and them, by ensuring that the love is being acted upon with equal give and take and remove yourself from that relationship if that is what is necessary.
Yes, there can be sacrifice in love but with the other person making similar sacrifices and never at the expense of loving yourself.
You are equally worthy of that love. Someone who truly loves you does not ask you to be a martyr. So please always love yourself.
If you are awesome at loving others from that higher love place, don’t be blind to giving yourself that same higher love.
You are loved. You are worth it. You are not hidden from sight.